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Love Isn’t Performance — It’s Presence

  One mother’s journey through guilt, grief, and the quiet rebuilding of love. There is a version of motherhood no one warns you about. The one where joy is eclipsed by appointments, and milestones are measured not by age but by ability. The one where guilt becomes a second skin, and grief walks beside you through every ordinary day. The one where you carry two children in your heart — one who needs you constantly, and another who learns to need you quietly. That is my life. I have two daughters. One of them has autism. The other is growing up in the shadow of a family system, being a carefree bird she is. And I am the mother — standing in the middle — trying to stretch myself wide enough to hold both of them, even when I am threadbare. For a long time, I believed love was something I had to prove. That to be a good mother, I had to be tireless, cheerful, endlessly available. That I had to overcompensate for the things I couldn’t change — the diagnosis, the future. This belief beca...

No Side-Effects, Only Side-Benefits: My Low Carb Story

 I’m  Shinjita Pant , a Low Carb Metabolic Health Coach. My journey into this field is deeply personal. As a parent to a child with special needs, one question haunted me for years —  “What after me?”  Like many parents, I wished I could live at least one day longer than my daughter, and that desire pushed me to look beyond just living longer, to living healthier. During COVID, that urgency became stronger. I came across the ideas of  Outlive ,  Longevity  and  Metabolic Health , and it shifted everything for me. I realised it’s not enough to add years to life — what truly matters is adding life to those years. Health reality hit us hard when my husband was diagnosed with diabetes, NAFLD, thyroid issues, and high cholesterol — and I myself was diagnosed with pre-diabetes, early-stage rheumatoid arthritis, and high cholesterol. Both of us were perfect candidates for heart attacks.  Kahan I was dreaming of longevity, the reality was completely ...

अब बस भी कर

 ये बात-बात में रोना — अब बस भी कर, दूसरों की ज़िंदगी देखकर कसमसाना — अब बस भी कर। क्या तेरे पास ख़ुश रहने को कुछ भी नहीं? सोचा तो कर… सोचा ना! अपना आरोग्य है, अपने पे काम करने की ललक है, निखार का जज़्बा है… और क्या चाहिए? अब बस भी कर।

Return to Real, from the Rigged

Nature has silence.  Nature has noise.  Both, all the time.  Nature has dark.  Nature has light.  One at a time.  Respect that.  Follow the SLEEP cycle.   Nature gave us FOOD.  Let’s not turn it into products,  then wonder why we are sick.  Eat what nature gave.  It gave us saturated fats—real fuel.  Not refined oils in shiny bottles.   Nature gave us HANDS—to work.  To build, to grow, to feel.  Let’s not waste them only on typing.  Let them touch the soil,  knead the dough, lift, shape, make.   Nature calls us to MOVE.  So move.  Don’t just chase thoughts.  Don’t live only in the head.  MOVE the body, and the mind will SETTLE   Nature designed us for “rest and digest.”  Let’s not override it.  Let’s not get trapped In “fight or flight.”  That is not a place to live.   Nature whispers  Let’s not drift so far apart  That...

Your Body Runs the Show — Fuel It Right

In today’s to-go world, “looking after your health” often feels like just another task on the never-ending to-do list. But here’s the simple truth: your health is the foundation for everything else. Without it, your goals, relationships, and daily life start to fall apart. Prioritising health isn’t just common sense—it’s backed by both psychology and biology. Even small shifts, like cutting back on carbs, can have a ripple effect, not just on your weight or blood sugar, but on your stress levels, sleep, and mood too. Psychologist Abraham Maslow described our needs as a pyramid. At the base are the essentials: air, water, food, sleep, and health. Only when those are covered can we move on to feeling safe, building relationships, growing confidence, and reaching our potential. But when you’re running on empty—tired, inflamed, or constantly stressed—how can you focus on your goals or even enjoy life? The whole pyramid gets shaky. And often, it starts with what’s on our plate. “Health” is...

The Family Juggle: Different Tastes, Endless Rewrite

  Looking after a family is a constant act of writing — not on paper, but in real life. I am scripting meals, schedules, moods, negotiations, little peace treaties, crisis management plans — and every single "sentence" has to land differently depending on who’s hearing it. Different tastes, mindsets, ages, choices — it's like writing six parallel stories that somehow have to coexist in the same book. One child wants quiet, another wants attention. Someone likes spicy, someone refuses to touch vegetables. One believes in rules, the other in loopholes. The elders bring wisdom and expectations. The younger ones bring rebellion and raw honesty. And you — you’re constantly rewriting, editing, adjusting your tone, pausing, adding footnotes, softening harsh lines, bolding what needs to be heard. It’s exhausting. But it’s also strangely literary — because like any good writer, you keep showing up to the page , no matter how messy the draft is. It is exhausting — that...

चुप की ज़ुबान से

अपने जज़्बातों के सफ़र में , ख़ुद - शिनासी को पहचाना मैंने। (self-awareness) चुप की ज़ुबान से लिखीं थीं कहानियाँ , जिन्हें ख़ुद भी ना कभी सुना था मैंने। अब ख़ुद से वफ़ा करने की बारी है , अब ख़ुद को सुनना सीखना है। अबके दिल से एहद किया है — (promise) हर जद्दोज़हद को समझूंगी , (struggle) बग़ैर शर्मिंदगी के , ना दबाऊँगी , ना झुठलाऊँगी। अब ख़ुद से वफ़ा करने की बारी है , अब तो मैं ख़ुद के साथ हूँ — मुकम्मल , सच्ची , मुकम्मल। (whole, true, complete) अब ख़ुद से शुरुआत करूंगी , प्यार से , सब्र से , सच्चाई से , और जो भी टूटा है अंदर कहीं , उसे आहिस्ता - आहिस्ता जोड़ लूंगी।